In the late โ90s, the Internet was really and truly the Wild, Wild West. It was a tough time for parenting because it was difficult to know exactly what to tell our kids about staying safe online.

Ashley Harzog, age 10, a.k.a. Ashley Ainttellinu
But one thing was as clear then as it is now: Donโt give personal information on the Internet. Back then, parents worried a great deal about online child predators. Honestly, at the time, thoughts of privacy issues and protecting our kids from identity theft just werenโt a major concern. This soon changed.
It was in November 1999 that Neopets.com hit the scene. Kids loved it. I mean, really, really loved it. The computer game allowed them to create and take care of virtual pets in Neopia, a virtual world, and interact with each other on boards. Kids had to register, which involved giving personal information. Like other kids, Ashley, my then-10-year-old daughter, wanted to sign up and participate.
My lectures about not giving personal information on the Internet apparently did have an impact on her. Ashley now says, โI remember at the time thinking I shouldnโt give my real name. So I made up a last name.โ
So although she gave her actual address to somebody connected to the site when she signed up (itโs unclear whether it was Neopets or one of its advertisers; it was too long ago to remember), Ashley used the name โAshley Ainttellnu,โ as in, I ainโt tellinโ you my last name. Hey, when youโre 10 years old, this approach makes darn good sense. And she did (sort of) listen to her mom. Unfortunately, she used her addressโa big no.
Flash forward about 10 years. Ever since Ashley started college in 2009, sheโs been receiving offers for student credit cards. Last week, Ashley received two credit card offers on the same day. They were both for a Discover student card.
One was addressed to Ashley Harzog and one was addressed toโare you ready?โAshley Ainttellnu. The card issuer, Discover, knows how old Ashley Ainttellnu is and that sheโs now in college. What Discover doesnโt know is that Ashley Ainttellnu doesnโt exist and that she most certainly doesnโt need a credit card.
Click to view offer letters to both Ashleys
I reached out to Discover and asked how they obtain mailing lists for credit card offers. A spokesperson for Discover said that the card issuer works with well-known, reputable vendors to receive general, non-regulated consumer information. Discover has agreements in place that require these vendors to verify that the names and addresses are legitimate.
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What they didnโt say is whether or not these reputable venders have at any point in the past collected childrenโs personal information, only to release it to banks once theyโve come of age. Maybe Discover doesnโt know how their vendors gather the names and addresses, but in this parentโs opinion, they ought to check into it. In fact, I think itโs time all credit card issuers started taking some responsibility for the personal information they purchase.
Obviously, my daughterโs personal information was sold on a list. Iโve contacted Neopets in an attempt to figure out what may have happened, but they declined to respond. To their credit, though, they now require kids under 13 to obtain parental consent before they can interact with others. This step is taken to stay in compliance with the Childrenโs Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA), enacted in 1998. Parents have to complete and actually mail in a consent form.
Unfortunately, kids can get around this by lying about their birthdates. I know this because I made up a birthdate when I signed up and I was able to wander around the site unencumbered. But Iโll still give Neopets credit for trying to maintain a safe environment. There were warnings all over the place about safety and how kids will get banned for life if they donโt follow the rules or make inappropriate comments. Neopets makes it easy for parents to find explanations about COPPA. So Iโd say they make a good effort to follow the law. Anyway, as much as you can when youโre relying on kids to tell the truth about their age.
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